Before I get to that list, I just want it to sink in a little more, mainly to me as I am still not sure I fully comprehend, that starting now I have been married to E- longer than I have not been married to her. More than half of my life has been blessed because she said yes.
Now back to my wisdom in the form of a list of what it takes to get to your 25th wedding anniversary:
Number 1: Find someone who puts up with you and your antics and lets you stick around for 25 years.
Number 2: There is no number 2. Number 1 is it. My wisdom ends there as number 1 is the sole reason I can think of for why I am still married to E- after 25 years. It is nothing I have done other than love her. It is all related to her ignoring me when I am being stupid, or better yet telling me I am being stupid and that I should stop. It is all related to her loving me no matter what happens or what I do. At least, I think she still loves me. Hopefully she still does. Otherwise, I don't know why she still puts herself through it.
Don't get me wrong. I am sure there are plenty of days when E- does not like me at all, but I think she still loves me even in those times. It is the only explanation for 25 years. I do know and can easily state that I love her. She is my life. She is my joy. She makes each and every day better.
Aside: It is no coincidence that as I was typing the last paragraph, blink-182's Home is Such a Lonely Place came on. The lyrics "Home is such a lonely place without you. Home is such a lonely place." describe how I feel when E- is away and not at home. There is no "home" without her. It is a house. Each spot there is just a room. It is a place to sleep and exist. With her there though, it becomes a home. A place that is safe. A place that surrounds you in warmth and love. A place that I never care to leave.
Done with the aside (but not blink-182). Back to my list of one. My advice to my kids and to others out there is find that someone that you know will put up with you. I am sure E- has her own list, but this list of one is all I could rationalize as being worthy, from my point of view, of passing along.
If E- is willing, maybe I will be able to post 5, 10, or even 25 years from now with some additional items for my list. Even if I get to those milestones, I am thinking my list will still just be this one item though.
|Here's to 25 more|
I love you, E-. More than I probably convey to you or that you know.
PS: After some deep thought, I have a Number 2 for my list of infinite wisdom. Number 2: Make sure that person in Number 1 is E-.
Sorry guys, I am the only one that can achieve Number 2.